Becoming More Assertive: How to Express Yourself, Give Feedback, and Set Boundaries

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Becoming More Assertive: How to Express Yourself, Give Feedback, and Set Boundaries

"The Bill of Assertive Rights" by Manuel J. Smith:

1. You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
2. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
3. You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
4. You have the right to change your mind.
5. You have the right to make mistakes - and be responsible for them.
6. You have the right to say, "I don’t know."
7. You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
8. You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
9. You have the right to say, "I don’t understand."
10. You have the right to say, "I don’t care."